Showing posts with label family. Show all posts
Showing posts with label family. Show all posts

Wednesday, July 13, 2016

Great Authority, Great Responsibility

I know my FB posts this week have been mostly silly in nature, but it is release week and that just comes with the territory.  However, in this week of spiritual consecration and fasting I haven’t lost sight of all that’s going on in the world around us.  What we are seeing played out in the news daily are symptoms of something much greater.  The ROOTS of the problems need to be dealt with.  I was reading my Bible today, Numbers 30 to be exact, and I came across something so interesting…

The chapter deals with vows and how God sees them.  Any believer knows, or should know this scripture in Ecclesiastes 5:4-6 (NASB) - 4 When you make a vow to God, do not be late in paying it; for He takes no delight in fools. Pay what you vow! 5 It is better that you should not vow than that you should vow and not pay. 6 Do not let your speech cause you to sin and do not say in the presence of the messenger of God that it was a mistake. Why should God be angry on account of your voice and destroy the work of your hands?

So yeah, we don’t play with God and vows.  Now back to Numbers 30.  I found it interesting that if a woman still in her father’s house or a married woman makes a vow and the MAN responsible for her, overhears it he can nullify it based on his position in her life and the authority God has given him. God will honor his authority and release her from a VOW, something we know God does NOT play about.  BUT, the man has to say something as soon as he hears about it.  If he doesn’t take direct action and lingers in his nullification then he will be responsible for any guilt.  WHOA.  Did y’all get that?  God will intervene for her based on the man he put in place to cover her and RELEASE her from a vow.  Also, the man has to act on that thing immediately, he can’t play with it or that guilt is his to bear.  NOTE: The man can suffer if he doesn’t PROPERLY use the authority God has given him.   

So what’s my point and how does this tie in?  Listen, one of the root causes of what’s going on in society today is men being out of place, in particular black men.  Yes, there are MANY contributing factors and I am not about to list any of them, because what matters now is solutions.  Look at how much authority and responsibility God has given the man in his Divine Order.  Wait… pause… this is NOT an open forum for an independent woman or feminist argument.  This is about God’s order for the family.  It’s NOT up for debate.  Now where was I, oh yes, the man aka the head of the house aka the authority in the family.  It’s no coincidence that Satan is destroying the head of the family through senseless violence, hate, mass incarceration, identity issues and the like.  It’s a PLAN.  It’s a strategy to get them out of place.  When the head falls, the body suffers.  I am reminded of a passage in my upcoming release, “Saturday Showdown.”  (Not a shameless but an INTENTIONAL plug – LOL)  In this book, God is very much dealing with the men, their rightful place in Him and in their family, so we need to take heed.



Wise words from First Lady Darcy Stone: “Don’t be like Adam and throw her under the bus.  Even if Adam hadn’t eaten the fruit, God would still have come looking for him because he’s the one that God left in charge, not Eve.  So take a lesson from him and cover her sins with your love the way Christ covered your sins with his blood. I don’t care what she reveals.  You cover her.  When God looks at you all He sees is Christ’s blood.  When people look at her, all they need to see is your love.  You are to love her the way the Christ loves the church.  Most times the only scripture a man knows is, ‘Wives submit to your husbands.’  It never occurs to them the weight that goes with that charge.  Yes, God gave you all great authority but that’s because it comes with great responsibility.  There’s a cost to be the boss and the price is your life.  Just like Christ laid his life down, you are to lay yours down for the family God entrusted to you.  Son, you have to crucify your flesh and operate in the spirit.  So you stand in front her.  You hide her.  You protect her.  Do you understand me?”  (Excerpt from "Saturday Showdown" Book 7 in the Chronicles of Warfare Saga)


Men, and not just black men, but ESPECIALLY black men, it’s time to take your place!  We need you!  The authority you’ve been given is great.  It can change the very fabric of our existence.  TAKE YOUR PLACE!  This blog has been brought to you by the letter V and the number 2. (LOL)  Y’all be blessed!

Until next time... 

Wednesday, April 6, 2016

For the Single Christian Woman Who's Tired of THAT Question


Hi, my name is Gwendolyn Evans. I am thirty...cough...ahem years old and I am SINGLE. Yep, that's right.  My left ring finger is naked, except for when I rock one of my fabulous rings.  Meanwhile, when I say single, I mean, like for real, for real...single.  I am not entertaining a male acquaintance, it's not going down in my DMs and I don't have a "friend" around just for companionship.  

For me, being single at this point in my life is by divine appointment.  Just to clarify, my meaning of divine... I'm talking about Yahweh, Jesus' dad.  Let me be clear, yes I do want to get married and have a family someday, but in the meantime... I'm good.  I know it's hard for some people to grasp this concept, but I really am okay.  Why you ask?  Because I live my life on, in and about purpose.  

I believe that God put me here on this earth to do something great.  So that's what I'm doing. The thing that works my nerve about folk, specifically church folk and family folk, is this constant questioning of the status of my left finger and/or my uterus.  Now look here, I understand some of it is genuine concern, but most of it is just plain old busybodied-ness.  Is that a word?  Well it's going to be one today.  

Listen, I am NOT here for your personal love connection skills, which by the way SUCK!  At some point these people ASSUMED that because my life wasn't moving at THEIR expected pace that I need their UNSOLICITED help.  Oh. Em. Gee! The "candidates" that have been brought to my attention make me want to say, "Do you even like me?  Do you know anything about me?  How much thought did you put into that before you approached me with this option?  Why do you insist on trying my life?"  

It's like come on people... I'm good.  Unless you see me around here moping, behaving in a thirsty manner, or suicidal on Facebook due to loneliness, ASSUME that I'm good. ASSUME that I'm happy.  ASSUME that I'm content in my single life.  ASSUME that I'm having fun. ASSUME that I believe the Bible that I confess to believe in and that I'm not worried because I know God's got me. 


My Bible tells me in 1 Corinthians 7:34 that, "The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit..."  My life revolves around doing what God told me to do (see www.melindamichelle21.com for documented proof), enjoying my family, enjoying my friends, traveling and pretty much selfishly spending my time the way I want to with no regard for anyone else's opinion.  I am enjoying my season of singleness because guess what, I am going to enjoy the mess out of my married life. That's right people. It's important to enjoy whatever season you're in because seasons change.  

So if you are a part of the "folk" that harass the single person about their status in life... STOP IT I SAY. Why don't you pray that God sends them the godly spouse that you're so desperate for them to have and give them encouragement on how to be a good spouse when that person arrives.  If you're the single person who is tired of being harassed, cornered and questioned, I say it's time to cut off the un-edifying chatter and LIVE YOUR LIFE!  Besides, once you get married they're going to ask you when you're having a baby.  Then as soon as you give them this baby, they're going to ask you when are you having another one.  See the pattern? People cannot be satisfied, so you have to be.  

Go live your life. Stop waiting on a spouse to validate you, God has already done that. Find your purpose and get your Kingdom Grind on.  I'm on mine and I'm telling you it's a wild ride that NEVER has a dull moment.  I'll leave you with this. Cyrus Flanagan, one of the greatest men I have ever known said, "You don't marry a person, you marry a destiny." Therefore, your marriage is an assignment from God.  If you're not able to focus on your assignment as a single person, how will you ever be able to focus on your assignment as a married person with all the things that will be added to your plate when you say, "I Do."  To everything there is a season (Ecclesiastes 3:1).

Until Next Time,
GMME